In fact, The question is not how we should get rid of tribalism? It should be, what is fueling the bloody thing?
When was the last time you met someone bent on being tribalist for the sake of being Tribalist? You will rarely meet such a breed, what you are more likely to meet are worried, scared and concerned citizens using qabiil as means to an end. They employ Qabyaalad as their Security blanket, Insurance policy or unfair advantage to climb the social mobility ladder.
Tribalism like many other form of prejudice is driven by a lack of economic opportunities, stagnating social mobility, non-existent social security net, low levels of education, etc. Politicians and tribal chieftains feed on these social problems to fuel hate and generate more Qabyaalad.
Those hellbound leaders invoke the most dangerous human feeling in people, FEAR!. Fear of another qabiil taking over their livelihoods.
spreading rumours ( and sometimes news) about another qabiil devouring public resources or taking hold of jobs and educational opportunities makes people Afraid and worrisome.
On the local scale, subclan X will take over our watering holes, Clan Y will steal your grazing lands, clan X mayor will fire our clans civil servants in the local government etc. The fear invoked is a struggle for survival (quutal daruuri).
It's the same old drum that we heard many times, however, for the desperate hopeless and hapless person it's music to their ears. They find another to blame for their miserable lives, and no wonder one hears that the mareexaans are responsible for Farmaajo's shortcomings, Habar-Awal are responsible for Biixi's Junta looting the country , etc.
How often do you see the well-off educated middle-class person in Hargeisa or Muqdisho giving two damns about Qabiil issues, Or the hardworking builder with family to feed in Boosaaso or Kismaayo indulging qabyaalad in their free time. They are busy with their lives, but with occasional reminders that any misfortune is the fault of Clan X or Y.
One shouldn't confuse them with those in the diaspora that mostly are "badaw doolar helay". Who themselves are impoverished in their host countries and qabyaalad is their outlet to feel important. They use it to relieve the stress of a midlife crisis brought in by their emasculation in distant lands!.
However, it's a Catch-22 paradox. If you want to progress, you need to get rid of Qabyaalad, and if you want Qabyaalad to end you need progress.
My only advice is, to avoid fighting Qabyaalad head-on. one should create the right environment for it to gradually wither away.
NB; Qabyaalad is different from Qabiil which is an inherent part of the Somali culture and identity.
